{"status":true,"post":{"id":33411,"user_id":6,"status":1,"type":1,"orde":null,"notification_type":3,"static_post":0,"published_at":"2022-10-24 21:21:59","created_at":"2022-06-09T21:00:00.000000Z","updated_at":"2022-10-24T18:21:59.000000Z","edited_at":"2024-12-17 22:35:21","source_id":null,"post_id":33411,"is_featured":0,"title":"K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 arabal\u0131 gen\u00e7","slider_title":null,"slider_title_2":null,"slider_spot_title":null,"slider_spot_title_2":null,"home_title":null,"sub_title":null,"category_id":73,"description":null,"content":" \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t

DR. \u0130LHAM\u0130 FINDIK\u00c7I<\/strong><\/span>
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Ak\u0131c\u0131 bir trafikte yol al\u0131rken sa\u011f \u015feritten h\u0131zla gelen k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 renkli bir ara\u00e7 birden \u00f6n\u00fcme ge\u00e7ti. Dar mesafede fren yapt\u0131m ve sars\u0131ld\u0131m. Neyse ki kaza olmad\u0131. K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131kla s\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fcy\u00fc izlerken bir \u00f6ndeki arac\u0131, sonrakini ve sonrakileri de \u00e7ok tehlikeli \u015fekilde ge\u00e7ti. <\/span>
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Otoyolun \u015feritleri aras\u0131nda zikzaklar \u00e7izerek, keskin makaslarla ilerledi ve g\u00f6zden kayboldu. \u00c7ok ge\u00e7meden trafik yava\u015flad\u0131. Y\u00fczlerce ara\u00e7 yakla\u015f\u0131k yar\u0131m saat \u00e7ok a\u011f\u0131r ilerledikten sonra fark ettim ki, kaza yapan o k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 arabayd\u0131.<\/span>
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Yolda adeta slalom yapan k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 arac\u0131n sol ref\u00fcjdeki feci kaza g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fc \u00fcrk\u00fct\u00fcc\u00fcyd\u00fc. A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 s\u00fcratli araba birka\u00e7 araca \u00e7arpt\u0131ktan sonra takla atm\u0131\u015f. Hurdaya d\u00f6nm\u00fc\u015f arac\u0131n yan\u0131nda yerde oturan s\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fcye k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k ve ac\u0131ma duygular\u0131n\u0131n kar\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131 ile yakla\u015ft\u0131m. \u015e\u00fck\u00fcr ki bir \u015feyi yoktu, amb\u00fclans gelene kadar konu\u015ftuk ve tan\u0131maya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Sonra zaman zaman arad\u0131 bu gen\u00e7 insan ve bir\u00e7ok kez sohbet ettik. <\/span>
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Ailenin tek evlad\u0131 olan 29 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki bu delikanl\u0131, iddial\u0131 olmayan bir \u00fcniversite e\u011fitimi alm\u0131\u015f, babas\u0131na ait plastik saklama kab\u0131 yapan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir aile i\u015fletmesinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f. \u0130nsan ili\u015fkilerinde kendini kontrol etmede zorlan\u0131yordu. Temel ki\u015filik donan\u0131mlar\u0131 aras\u0131nda karizma, hitabet, ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim gibi aranan liderlik \u00f6zellikleri dikkat \u00e7ekiyordu. \u00d6zg\u00fcven ile narsisizm aras\u0131nda bocal\u0131yordu.<\/span>
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Hak konusunda kendisine \u00f6ncelik tan\u0131yan, ba\u015fkas\u0131na kolayca zarar veren, kendisini vazge\u00e7ilmez g\u00f6ren, trafik gibi toplumsal alanlarda ge\u00e7i\u015f \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc sa\u011flayan bu anti sosyal davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n kayna\u011f\u0131 nedir acaba? <\/span>
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\u00d6ZG\u00dcVEN M\u0130 NARS\u0130S\u0130ZM M\u0130?<\/strong><\/span>
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Ku\u015fkusuz bireyi toplumdan uzakla\u015ft\u0131ran, di\u011ferleriyle kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya getiren, \u00e7evresiyle uyumunu zorla\u015ft\u0131ran davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n kayna\u011f\u0131nda tek sebep bulunmaz. Burada bireyin do\u011fu\u015ftan getirdi\u011fi temel ki\u015filik yatk\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131, aile ve \u00e7evredeki yeti\u015fme bi\u00e7imi ve toplumsal ya\u015fam\u0131n neden oldu\u011fu \u00f6\u011frenmelerin rol\u00fc vard\u0131r. <\/span>
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G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde anti sosyal davran\u0131\u015f modellerinin giderek artt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00e7e\u015fitlendi\u011fini kolayl\u0131kla s\u00f6yleyebiliriz. Zira ya\u015fam\u0131n hemen her alan\u0131nda ve yery\u00fcz\u00fcndeki t\u00fcm toplumlarda insan insana etkile\u015fimin dar bir alana s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00f6nemdeyiz. Dijital toplumun sanal ya\u015fam modeli, insan\u0131 insandan uzakla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131k\u00e7a bireyin ba\u015fkas\u0131 i\u00e7in bir \u015fey yapma e\u011filimi de azal\u0131yor. Daha fazla \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck iste\u011fiyle bireysel ya\u015fam alan\u0131 geni\u015fledik\u00e7e toplumsal davran\u0131\u015flardaki anormallikler de art\u0131yor. Kendine g\u00fcven, narsisizme d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor h\u0131zla. <\/span>
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Dikkat \u00e7ekmek istedi\u011fimiz nokta, temel ki\u015filik \u00f6zelli\u011fi olarak \u00f6zg\u00fcvenle narsisimin kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131d\u0131r. \u00d6zg\u00fcven; bireyin zihinsel, duygusal ve sosyal becerilerinin fark\u0131nda olmas\u0131, kendinden emin olmas\u0131, kendini de\u011ferli ve yeterli g\u00f6rmesi, varl\u0131\u011f\u0131na sayg\u0131 duymas\u0131d\u0131r. \u00d6zg\u00fcveni olan birey; yeni deneyimler edinmede, giri\u015fim yapmada, m\u00fccadele etmede ve ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 zorlamada daha isteklidir. <\/span>
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Kendine g\u00fcven e\u011filimi kontrolden \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ise kibir, benlik \u00e7\u0131kmaz\u0131, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 ge\u00e7me yar\u0131\u015f\u0131, s\u00fcrekli daha iyi olma \u00e7abas\u0131 \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131kar. Bir anlamda birey i\u00e7in gerekli olan \u00f6zg\u00fcven e\u011filimi irade ile y\u00f6netilemedi\u011finde son derece b\u00fcy\u00fck zararlar verebilen bir b\u00fcy\u00fcklenme, b\u00f6b\u00fcrlenme, g\u00f6steri\u015f odakl\u0131 narsisizme d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febiliyor.<\/span><\/p> \t\t\t\t","slug":"kirmizi-arabali-genc","tags":"K\u00f6\u015fe Yaz\u0131s\u0131","meta_title":"K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 arabal\u0131 gen\u00e7","meta_description":"DR. \u0130LHAM\u0130 FINDIK\u00c7I","meta_keywords":"K\u00f6\u015fe Yaz\u0131s\u0131","news_cover_min":null,"news_cover":null,"news_video_min":null,"news_video":null,"view_count":1096,"cropped_1200x675":null,"user":{"id":6,"name":"\u0130LHAM\u0130","surname":"FINDIK\u00c7I","email":"kerem49@gonultas.org","slug":"dr-ilhami-findikci","avatar":"\/front\/uploads\/avatar\/17336916007TlCwM70HUjW9XY.webp","status":1,"role":1,"email_verified_at":null,"orde":null,"created_at":"2022-09-15T09:39:41.000000Z","updated_at":"2024-12-18T10:21:29.000000Z","seo_title":null,"seo_description":null},"translations":[{"id":33510,"is_featured":0,"is_amp":0,"is_ads":0,"ads_link":null,"post_id":33411,"locale":"tr","category_id":73,"title":"K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 arabal\u0131 gen\u00e7","home_title":null,"sub_title":null,"slider_title":null,"slider_title_2":null,"slider_spot_title":null,"slider_spot_title_2":null,"subtitleuse":0,"description":null,"content":" \t\t\t\t\t \t\t\t\t\t

DR. \u0130LHAM\u0130 FINDIK\u00c7I<\/strong><\/span>
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Ak\u0131c\u0131 bir trafikte yol al\u0131rken sa\u011f \u015feritten h\u0131zla gelen k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 renkli bir ara\u00e7 birden \u00f6n\u00fcme ge\u00e7ti. Dar mesafede fren yapt\u0131m ve sars\u0131ld\u0131m. Neyse ki kaza olmad\u0131. K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131kla s\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fcy\u00fc izlerken bir \u00f6ndeki arac\u0131, sonrakini ve sonrakileri de \u00e7ok tehlikeli \u015fekilde ge\u00e7ti. <\/span>
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Otoyolun \u015feritleri aras\u0131nda zikzaklar \u00e7izerek, keskin makaslarla ilerledi ve g\u00f6zden kayboldu. \u00c7ok ge\u00e7meden trafik yava\u015flad\u0131. Y\u00fczlerce ara\u00e7 yakla\u015f\u0131k yar\u0131m saat \u00e7ok a\u011f\u0131r ilerledikten sonra fark ettim ki, kaza yapan o k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 arabayd\u0131.<\/span>
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Yolda adeta slalom yapan k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 arac\u0131n sol ref\u00fcjdeki feci kaza g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fc \u00fcrk\u00fct\u00fcc\u00fcyd\u00fc. A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 s\u00fcratli araba birka\u00e7 araca \u00e7arpt\u0131ktan sonra takla atm\u0131\u015f. Hurdaya d\u00f6nm\u00fc\u015f arac\u0131n yan\u0131nda yerde oturan s\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fcye k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k ve ac\u0131ma duygular\u0131n\u0131n kar\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131 ile yakla\u015ft\u0131m. \u015e\u00fck\u00fcr ki bir \u015feyi yoktu, amb\u00fclans gelene kadar konu\u015ftuk ve tan\u0131maya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Sonra zaman zaman arad\u0131 bu gen\u00e7 insan ve bir\u00e7ok kez sohbet ettik. <\/span>
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Ailenin tek evlad\u0131 olan 29 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki bu delikanl\u0131, iddial\u0131 olmayan bir \u00fcniversite e\u011fitimi alm\u0131\u015f, babas\u0131na ait plastik saklama kab\u0131 yapan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir aile i\u015fletmesinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f. \u0130nsan ili\u015fkilerinde kendini kontrol etmede zorlan\u0131yordu. Temel ki\u015filik donan\u0131mlar\u0131 aras\u0131nda karizma, hitabet, ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim gibi aranan liderlik \u00f6zellikleri dikkat \u00e7ekiyordu. \u00d6zg\u00fcven ile narsisizm aras\u0131nda bocal\u0131yordu.<\/span>
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Hak konusunda kendisine \u00f6ncelik tan\u0131yan, ba\u015fkas\u0131na kolayca zarar veren, kendisini vazge\u00e7ilmez g\u00f6ren, trafik gibi toplumsal alanlarda ge\u00e7i\u015f \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc sa\u011flayan bu anti sosyal davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n kayna\u011f\u0131 nedir acaba? <\/span>
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\u00d6ZG\u00dcVEN M\u0130 NARS\u0130S\u0130ZM M\u0130?<\/strong><\/span>
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Ku\u015fkusuz bireyi toplumdan uzakla\u015ft\u0131ran, di\u011ferleriyle kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya getiren, \u00e7evresiyle uyumunu zorla\u015ft\u0131ran davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n kayna\u011f\u0131nda tek sebep bulunmaz. Burada bireyin do\u011fu\u015ftan getirdi\u011fi temel ki\u015filik yatk\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131, aile ve \u00e7evredeki yeti\u015fme bi\u00e7imi ve toplumsal ya\u015fam\u0131n neden oldu\u011fu \u00f6\u011frenmelerin rol\u00fc vard\u0131r. <\/span>
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G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde anti sosyal davran\u0131\u015f modellerinin giderek artt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00e7e\u015fitlendi\u011fini kolayl\u0131kla s\u00f6yleyebiliriz. Zira ya\u015fam\u0131n hemen her alan\u0131nda ve yery\u00fcz\u00fcndeki t\u00fcm toplumlarda insan insana etkile\u015fimin dar bir alana s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00f6nemdeyiz. Dijital toplumun sanal ya\u015fam modeli, insan\u0131 insandan uzakla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131k\u00e7a bireyin ba\u015fkas\u0131 i\u00e7in bir \u015fey yapma e\u011filimi de azal\u0131yor. Daha fazla \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck iste\u011fiyle bireysel ya\u015fam alan\u0131 geni\u015fledik\u00e7e toplumsal davran\u0131\u015flardaki anormallikler de art\u0131yor. Kendine g\u00fcven, narsisizme d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor h\u0131zla. <\/span>
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Dikkat \u00e7ekmek istedi\u011fimiz nokta, temel ki\u015filik \u00f6zelli\u011fi olarak \u00f6zg\u00fcvenle narsisimin kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131d\u0131r. \u00d6zg\u00fcven; bireyin zihinsel, duygusal ve sosyal becerilerinin fark\u0131nda olmas\u0131, kendinden emin olmas\u0131, kendini de\u011ferli ve yeterli g\u00f6rmesi, varl\u0131\u011f\u0131na sayg\u0131 duymas\u0131d\u0131r. \u00d6zg\u00fcveni olan birey; yeni deneyimler edinmede, giri\u015fim yapmada, m\u00fccadele etmede ve ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 zorlamada daha isteklidir. <\/span>
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Kendine g\u00fcven e\u011filimi kontrolden \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ise kibir, benlik \u00e7\u0131kmaz\u0131, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 ge\u00e7me yar\u0131\u015f\u0131, s\u00fcrekli daha iyi olma \u00e7abas\u0131 \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131kar. Bir anlamda birey i\u00e7in gerekli olan \u00f6zg\u00fcven e\u011filimi irade ile y\u00f6netilemedi\u011finde son derece b\u00fcy\u00fck zararlar verebilen bir b\u00fcy\u00fcklenme, b\u00f6b\u00fcrlenme, g\u00f6steri\u015f odakl\u0131 narsisizme d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febiliyor.<\/span><\/p> \t\t\t\t","slug":"kirmizi-arabali-genc","orjinalimage":null,"news_cover_min":null,"news_cover":null,"news_video_min":null,"news_video":null,"cropped_638x552":null,"cropped_310x208":null,"cropped_416x247":null,"cropped_197x247":null,"cropped_416x600":null,"cropped_1200x675":null,"tags":"K\u00f6\u015fe Yaz\u0131s\u0131","meta_title":"K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 arabal\u0131 gen\u00e7","meta_description":"DR. \u0130LHAM\u0130 FINDIK\u00c7I","meta_keywords":"K\u00f6\u015fe Yaz\u0131s\u0131","view_count":1096,"yt":0,"ytid":"","ytimage":null,"imgdate":"2000-01-01 00:00:00","cuff_cover":null,"cropped_358x214":null,"cropped_842x474":null}]}}