{"status":true,"post":{"id":35915,"user_id":5,"status":1,"type":1,"orde":null,"notification_type":3,"static_post":0,"published_at":"2022-12-08 11:56:22","created_at":"2022-12-08T11:56:22.000000Z","updated_at":"2022-12-08T11:56:22.000000Z","edited_at":"2024-12-17 22:35:21","source_id":null,"post_id":35915,"is_featured":0,"title":"B\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirde veli olmak","slider_title":null,"slider_title_2":null,"slider_spot_title":null,"slider_spot_title_2":null,"home_title":null,"sub_title":null,"category_id":73,"description":"Farabi, mesle\u011fi \u00f6\u011fretmen olanlar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, anne-baba ve devlet b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc de muallim olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr.","content":"<p style=\"margin: 0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; line-height: normal; font-size: 15px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; text-align: right;\"><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'><strong>PROF. DR. AHMET EMRE B\u0130LG\u0130L\u0130<\/strong><\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Farabi, mesle\u011fi \u00f6\u011fretmen olanlar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, anne-baba ve devlet b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc de muallim olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Yani asl\u0131nda T\u00fcrk k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcnde var olan; anne baba da dahil evdeki herkesi \u00f6\u011fretmen g\u00f6ren bir yakla\u015f\u0131m. Ba\u015fka bir deyi\u015fle, hane i\u00e7inde b\u00fcy\u00fcklerin k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcklerin \u00f6\u011fretmeni olmas\u0131. Bizde maarifin ve \u00f6\u011fretmenin toplum nezdindeki itibar\u0131 da bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceden ne\u015fet eder. Herkes bir \u015fekilde e\u011fitim \u00f6\u011fretim faaliyetinin i\u00e7erisinde yer al\u0131yor, hemh\u00e2l oluyor. Bir anlamda; \u00f6rg\u00fcn, yayg\u0131n ve hayat boyu e\u011fitim perspektifi i\u00e7erisinde deveran eden bir toplumsal hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n oldu\u011funu ama en \u00f6nemlisi ise ailenin de bir e\u011fitim birimi oldu\u011funun ifadesi. Bu durum, e\u011fitimin neticeleri a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan ku\u015fkusuz ki olumlu.<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Sosyal hayat\u0131n karma\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na muvazi olarak e\u011fitim \u00f6\u011fretimin veli boyutunun g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131m\u0131za yans\u0131mas\u0131 taraf\u0131nda ba\u015fka ve ciddi problemler belirmeye ba\u015flad\u0131. \u015eehir hayat\u0131nda \u00f6zellikle de b\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerde e\u011fitim \u00f6\u011fretim faaliyetlerinin \u00f6zel zorluklar\u0131 bulundu\u011funu zaten biliyoruz. B\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerde g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131n ak\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n e\u011fitimle ilgili k\u0131sm\u0131, evdeki \u00f6\u011frencinin ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fckler ve bunun aile \u00fcyelerine yans\u0131mas\u0131, devaml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olan probleme d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc herkesi zorluyor. Bu yaz\u0131m\u0131zda \u0130stanbul\u2019un g\u00fcndelik ya\u015fam\u0131n zorluklar\u0131ndan hareketle veli olarak anne, baba ve evdeki di\u011fer veli yard\u0131mc\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n (abla, abi, dede, nine vs.) ne t\u00fcr g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcklerle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 ve bunlarla m\u00fccadelede geli\u015ftirdikleri usulleri s\u00f6z konusu edece\u011fiz.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'><strong>* \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0* \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0*<\/strong><\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00d6ncelikle e\u011fitime yans\u0131yan b\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehir problemlerine k\u0131saca g\u00f6z atal\u0131m. Bunlar; anne baban\u0131n \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor olmas\u0131, okulun uzakl\u0131\u011f\u0131, servis, toplu ta\u015f\u0131ma, y\u00fcr\u00fcme veya \u00f6zel ara\u00e7la okula b\u0131rakma, trafi\u011fin yo\u011funlu\u011fu, kahvalt\u0131 problemi, d\u00fczensiz beslenme, k\u0131\u015f g\u00fcnleri karanl\u0131kta yola \u00e7\u0131kman\u0131n sak\u0131ncalar\u0131, akran problemleri, \u015fehrin g\u00fcvensizli\u011fi, dijital tehlikeler, ileti\u015fimsizlik durumlar\u0131, \u00f6zel ders ve dersane t\u00fcr\u00fc destek e\u011fitimleri, t\u00fcm bunlar\u0131n ya\u015fatt\u0131\u011f\u0131 stres, iktisadi durumu negatif etkilemesi, \u015fehrin sosyal ve k\u00fclt\u00fcrel imk\u00e2nlar\u0131ndan yararlanmak i\u00e7in kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131lan g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fckler. Bu liste daha detayland\u0131r\u0131labilir ama \u00f6ncelikle anne baba, b\u00fct\u00fcn bu zorluklarla aleni olarak y\u00fczle\u015fir. T\u00fcm bunlar\u0131n getirdi\u011fi iktisadi, sosyal ve psikolojik maliyeti g\u00f6\u011f\u00fcslemekle m\u00fckellef durumda kal\u0131r.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Bu da onlar\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131 zorla\u015ft\u0131ran temel bir unsur haline gelir. Ailelerin bu zorluklarla ba\u015fetme m\u00fccadelesi ve usulleri ayr\u0131ca \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131r.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Bizde ebeveyn, \u00e7ocu\u011funun e\u011fitimi yani gelece\u011fi i\u00e7in her t\u00fcrl\u00fc fedak\u00e2rl\u0131\u011fa d\u00fcnden haz\u0131rd\u0131r. Kar\u0131 koca olarak onlar da zaten bu t\u00fcr bir k\u00fclt\u00fcrden geliyor. Di\u011fer taraftan, anne baban\u0131n \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 ve \u015fehirde aile kurumunun \u00e7ekirdek aileye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmesi, bu sebeple de \u00e7ocu\u011fun evde oldu\u011fu zamanlarda di\u011fer aile \u00fcyelerinden birinin de evde bulunma zorunlulu\u011fu, ebeveynleri ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7ok zor durumda b\u0131rak\u0131yor. Ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 stres de i\u015fin cabas\u0131. Bir ba\u015fka a\u00e7\u0131dan \u00e7ocu\u011fun\/\u00e7ocuklar\u0131n okul d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda ba\u015fka aktivitelere yani; \u00f6zel ders, y\u00fczme, spor ve sanat etkinlikleri gibi mekanlara g\u00f6t\u00fcrme i\u015fi ba\u015fl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na maddi-manevi zorluklar anlam\u0131na geliyor.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'><strong>* \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0* \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0*<\/strong><\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>En b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fehrimiz olan \u0130stanbul\u2019un g\u00fcndelik ya\u015fam\u0131nda ebeveynin kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131 t\u00fcm bu g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcklerin faturas\u0131, ger\u00e7ekten a\u011f\u0131r oluyor, depresyon ortam\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 bir i\u015flev g\u00f6r\u00fcyor.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Hayat bir \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde maddesel hale geldi. \u0130\u015fin maddi taraf\u0131 bir yana ya\u015fan\u0131lan zorluklara kar\u015f\u0131 aile kendince ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kma yollar\u0131 bulma gayreti i\u00e7erisine giriyor. B\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehir hayat\u0131nda geleneksel usuller de tedav\u00fclden kalkt\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in do\u011fal olarak ebeveyn; bir uzmana (psikolog, psikiyatrist, ileti\u015fim, e\u011fitim-aile dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131 vs.) gidip yard\u0131m alma ihtiyac\u0131 duyuyor. B\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde teorik tecr\u00fcbelerden ve ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klardan yola \u00e7\u0131k\u0131larak olu\u015fturulan tavsiyelerin uygulamada ne \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde yerini buldu\u011fu da ayr\u0131 bir konu. Di\u011fer taraftan, i\u015fi d\u00fczg\u00fcn yapanlara diyecek bir \u015feyimiz yok elbette fakat az da olsa istismar edenlerin bulundu\u011fu bir ger\u00e7ektir.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Asl\u0131nda \u00f6zellikle b\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerde ya\u015fanan bu t\u00fcrden g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcklerle ba\u015fetmede ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmam\u0131z i\u00e7in \u00f6ncelikle aile yap\u0131m\u0131z sa\u011flam ve g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmal\u0131. Ailenin aile olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kmamas\u0131 gerekir. Aile i\u00e7i ileti\u015fim ise son derece \u00f6nemli hale geldi. Ya\u015fanan her t\u00fcrl\u00fc tahribata kar\u015f\u0131 ancak aile yap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc tutarak m\u00fccadele edebiliriz. \u0130yi bilinmelidir ki, savunma \u00fcss\u00fcm\u00fcz ailemizdir, akrabal\u0131kt\u0131r, dostlar\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r, ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z e\u011fitimdir, manevi dinamiklerimizin g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc tutulmas\u0131d\u0131r. M\u00fccadele; modern y\u00f6ntemleri kendi geleneksel usul ve de\u011ferlerimiz etraf\u0131nda kullanarak ve aile yap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendirerek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olabilir. Devletin aileyi g\u00fc\u00e7lendirici y\u00f6nde ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 tedbirlerin netice vermesi de bizim gayretimize ba\u011fl\u0131.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","slug":"buyuksehirde-veli-olmak","tags":null,"meta_title":null,"meta_description":null,"meta_keywords":null,"news_cover_min":null,"news_cover":null,"news_video_min":null,"news_video":null,"view_count":1169,"cropped_1200x675":null,"user":{"id":5,"name":"AHMET EMRE","surname":"B\u0130LG\u0130L\u0130","email":"mcetiner@menemencioglu.net","slug":"prof-dr-ahmet-emre-bilgili","avatar":"\/front\/uploads\/avatar\/173369160076ryfup3NGA3Op4.webp","status":1,"role":1,"email_verified_at":null,"orde":null,"created_at":"2022-09-15T09:39:41.000000Z","updated_at":"2024-12-18T10:21:44.000000Z","seo_title":null,"seo_description":null},"translations":[{"id":36041,"is_featured":0,"is_amp":0,"is_ads":0,"ads_link":null,"post_id":35915,"locale":"tr","category_id":73,"title":"B\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirde veli olmak","home_title":null,"sub_title":null,"slider_title":null,"slider_title_2":null,"slider_spot_title":null,"slider_spot_title_2":null,"subtitleuse":0,"description":"Farabi, mesle\u011fi \u00f6\u011fretmen olanlar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, anne-baba ve devlet b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc de muallim olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr.","content":"<p style=\"margin: 0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; line-height: normal; font-size: 15px; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; text-align: right;\"><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'><strong>PROF. DR. AHMET EMRE B\u0130LG\u0130L\u0130<\/strong><\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Farabi, mesle\u011fi \u00f6\u011fretmen olanlar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, anne-baba ve devlet b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc de muallim olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Yani asl\u0131nda T\u00fcrk k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcnde var olan; anne baba da dahil evdeki herkesi \u00f6\u011fretmen g\u00f6ren bir yakla\u015f\u0131m. Ba\u015fka bir deyi\u015fle, hane i\u00e7inde b\u00fcy\u00fcklerin k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcklerin \u00f6\u011fretmeni olmas\u0131. Bizde maarifin ve \u00f6\u011fretmenin toplum nezdindeki itibar\u0131 da bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceden ne\u015fet eder. Herkes bir \u015fekilde e\u011fitim \u00f6\u011fretim faaliyetinin i\u00e7erisinde yer al\u0131yor, hemh\u00e2l oluyor. Bir anlamda; \u00f6rg\u00fcn, yayg\u0131n ve hayat boyu e\u011fitim perspektifi i\u00e7erisinde deveran eden bir toplumsal hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n oldu\u011funu ama en \u00f6nemlisi ise ailenin de bir e\u011fitim birimi oldu\u011funun ifadesi. Bu durum, e\u011fitimin neticeleri a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan ku\u015fkusuz ki olumlu.<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Sosyal hayat\u0131n karma\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na muvazi olarak e\u011fitim \u00f6\u011fretimin veli boyutunun g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131m\u0131za yans\u0131mas\u0131 taraf\u0131nda ba\u015fka ve ciddi problemler belirmeye ba\u015flad\u0131. \u015eehir hayat\u0131nda \u00f6zellikle de b\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerde e\u011fitim \u00f6\u011fretim faaliyetlerinin \u00f6zel zorluklar\u0131 bulundu\u011funu zaten biliyoruz. B\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerde g\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131n ak\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n e\u011fitimle ilgili k\u0131sm\u0131, evdeki \u00f6\u011frencinin ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fckler ve bunun aile \u00fcyelerine yans\u0131mas\u0131, devaml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olan probleme d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc herkesi zorluyor. Bu yaz\u0131m\u0131zda \u0130stanbul\u2019un g\u00fcndelik ya\u015fam\u0131n zorluklar\u0131ndan hareketle veli olarak anne, baba ve evdeki di\u011fer veli yard\u0131mc\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n (abla, abi, dede, nine vs.) ne t\u00fcr g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcklerle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 ve bunlarla m\u00fccadelede geli\u015ftirdikleri usulleri s\u00f6z konusu edece\u011fiz.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'><strong>* \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0* \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0*<\/strong><\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00d6ncelikle e\u011fitime yans\u0131yan b\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehir problemlerine k\u0131saca g\u00f6z atal\u0131m. Bunlar; anne baban\u0131n \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor olmas\u0131, okulun uzakl\u0131\u011f\u0131, servis, toplu ta\u015f\u0131ma, y\u00fcr\u00fcme veya \u00f6zel ara\u00e7la okula b\u0131rakma, trafi\u011fin yo\u011funlu\u011fu, kahvalt\u0131 problemi, d\u00fczensiz beslenme, k\u0131\u015f g\u00fcnleri karanl\u0131kta yola \u00e7\u0131kman\u0131n sak\u0131ncalar\u0131, akran problemleri, \u015fehrin g\u00fcvensizli\u011fi, dijital tehlikeler, ileti\u015fimsizlik durumlar\u0131, \u00f6zel ders ve dersane t\u00fcr\u00fc destek e\u011fitimleri, t\u00fcm bunlar\u0131n ya\u015fatt\u0131\u011f\u0131 stres, iktisadi durumu negatif etkilemesi, \u015fehrin sosyal ve k\u00fclt\u00fcrel imk\u00e2nlar\u0131ndan yararlanmak i\u00e7in kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131lan g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fckler. Bu liste daha detayland\u0131r\u0131labilir ama \u00f6ncelikle anne baba, b\u00fct\u00fcn bu zorluklarla aleni olarak y\u00fczle\u015fir. T\u00fcm bunlar\u0131n getirdi\u011fi iktisadi, sosyal ve psikolojik maliyeti g\u00f6\u011f\u00fcslemekle m\u00fckellef durumda kal\u0131r.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Bu da onlar\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131 zorla\u015ft\u0131ran temel bir unsur haline gelir. Ailelerin bu zorluklarla ba\u015fetme m\u00fccadelesi ve usulleri ayr\u0131ca \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131r.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Bizde ebeveyn, \u00e7ocu\u011funun e\u011fitimi yani gelece\u011fi i\u00e7in her t\u00fcrl\u00fc fedak\u00e2rl\u0131\u011fa d\u00fcnden haz\u0131rd\u0131r. Kar\u0131 koca olarak onlar da zaten bu t\u00fcr bir k\u00fclt\u00fcrden geliyor. Di\u011fer taraftan, anne baban\u0131n \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 ve \u015fehirde aile kurumunun \u00e7ekirdek aileye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmesi, bu sebeple de \u00e7ocu\u011fun evde oldu\u011fu zamanlarda di\u011fer aile \u00fcyelerinden birinin de evde bulunma zorunlulu\u011fu, ebeveynleri ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7ok zor durumda b\u0131rak\u0131yor. Ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 stres de i\u015fin cabas\u0131. Bir ba\u015fka a\u00e7\u0131dan \u00e7ocu\u011fun\/\u00e7ocuklar\u0131n okul d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda ba\u015fka aktivitelere yani; \u00f6zel ders, y\u00fczme, spor ve sanat etkinlikleri gibi mekanlara g\u00f6t\u00fcrme i\u015fi ba\u015fl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na maddi-manevi zorluklar anlam\u0131na geliyor.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'><strong>* \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0* \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0*<\/strong><\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>En b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fehrimiz olan \u0130stanbul\u2019un g\u00fcndelik ya\u015fam\u0131nda ebeveynin kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131 t\u00fcm bu g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcklerin faturas\u0131, ger\u00e7ekten a\u011f\u0131r oluyor, depresyon ortam\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 bir i\u015flev g\u00f6r\u00fcyor.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Hayat bir \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde maddesel hale geldi. \u0130\u015fin maddi taraf\u0131 bir yana ya\u015fan\u0131lan zorluklara kar\u015f\u0131 aile kendince ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kma yollar\u0131 bulma gayreti i\u00e7erisine giriyor. B\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehir hayat\u0131nda geleneksel usuller de tedav\u00fclden kalkt\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in do\u011fal olarak ebeveyn; bir uzmana (psikolog, psikiyatrist, ileti\u015fim, e\u011fitim-aile dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131 vs.) gidip yard\u0131m alma ihtiyac\u0131 duyuyor. B\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde teorik tecr\u00fcbelerden ve ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klardan yola \u00e7\u0131k\u0131larak olu\u015fturulan tavsiyelerin uygulamada ne \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde yerini buldu\u011fu da ayr\u0131 bir konu. Di\u011fer taraftan, i\u015fi d\u00fczg\u00fcn yapanlara diyecek bir \u015feyimiz yok elbette fakat az da olsa istismar edenlerin bulundu\u011fu bir ger\u00e7ektir.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style='margin-top:0cm;margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;margin-left:0cm;line-height:normal;font-size:15px;font-family:\"Calibri\",sans-serif;'><span style='font-size:16px;font-family:\"Helvetica\",sans-serif;'>Asl\u0131nda \u00f6zellikle b\u00fcy\u00fck\u015fehirlerde ya\u015fanan bu t\u00fcrden g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcklerle ba\u015fetmede ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmam\u0131z i\u00e7in \u00f6ncelikle aile yap\u0131m\u0131z sa\u011flam ve g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmal\u0131. Ailenin aile olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kmamas\u0131 gerekir. Aile i\u00e7i ileti\u015fim ise son derece \u00f6nemli hale geldi. Ya\u015fanan her t\u00fcrl\u00fc tahribata kar\u015f\u0131 ancak aile yap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc tutarak m\u00fccadele edebiliriz. \u0130yi bilinmelidir ki, savunma \u00fcss\u00fcm\u00fcz ailemizdir, akrabal\u0131kt\u0131r, dostlar\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r, ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z e\u011fitimdir, manevi dinamiklerimizin g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc tutulmas\u0131d\u0131r. M\u00fccadele; modern y\u00f6ntemleri kendi geleneksel usul ve de\u011ferlerimiz etraf\u0131nda kullanarak ve aile yap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendirerek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olabilir. Devletin aileyi g\u00fc\u00e7lendirici y\u00f6nde ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 tedbirlerin netice vermesi de bizim gayretimize ba\u011fl\u0131.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","slug":"buyuksehirde-veli-olmak","orjinalimage":null,"news_cover_min":null,"news_cover":null,"news_video_min":null,"news_video":null,"cropped_638x552":null,"cropped_310x208":null,"cropped_416x247":null,"cropped_197x247":null,"cropped_416x600":null,"cropped_1200x675":null,"tags":null,"meta_title":null,"meta_description":null,"meta_keywords":null,"view_count":1169,"yt":0,"ytid":"","ytimage":null,"imgdate":"2000-01-01 00:00:00","cuff_cover":null,"cropped_358x214":null,"cropped_842x474":null}]}}